If you and your partner have decided to get a divorce, you have a lot on your mind. If you have children, you will have to tell them this news. Also from a financial point of view, a lot has to be arranged if you separate. Drastic events, where it is wise to go through all the steps in a structured way, no matter how difficult that is sometimes. What steps are all these? Below we have listed the most important ones for you!
Hire an expert
Emotions often run high during a divorce. It is then very difficult to think rationally and to arrive at a fair distribution of money and possessions. In this case, it is advisable to choose a mediator. So you actually choose a mediator who works for both parties. The goal of a mediator is to arrive at a fair and balanced distribution. If it is not possible to reach an agreement with this mediator, there is always the option of engaging a lawyer. However, a lawyer represents the interests of one party, so at that moment you are legally opposed to each other. If your goal is to continue to deal with your ex-partner normally after the divorce, it is advisable to choose a mediator in the first instance.
Formalize the divorce
A divorce must be officially filed with the court. If this request has been submitted, the judge will make a decision after a few weeks. As soon as the judge approves the divorce, you will receive a divorce decision. In the municipality where you were married, the divorce must then be registered with the registry office. Only when this has happened is the divorce formally settled. Have you ever made a will with your partner? Keep in mind that this must also be adjusted to avoid unpleasant situations in the future.
Inform those involved
It is important to inform your social contacts about the fact that you are getting a divorce. It is wise to inform family and friends with an unambiguous, clear message about the divorce. This prevents misunderstandings, and you don’t have to tell the story every time, which of course costs a lot of energy. It is also wise to inform, for example, the primary school of your children.